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Essays and practical guidance on anxiety, OCD, perfectionism, KAP, and steadying change. New posts are added regularly.
Shame tells us we are fundamentally inadequate, but that message is not truth. This piece explores how chronic shame develops and how to work with it in everyday moments.
You're highly capable, you meet your responsibilities, and to the world, you look fine. But inside, you're fighting a constant battle with chronic anxiety, perfectionism, and a relentless inner critic. This quiet exhaustion is what complex trauma often looks like in high-functioning adults. Discover why these traits are survival strategies, not character flaws, and what actually helps you move from just functioning to truly feeling okay.
Complex trauma (C-PTSD) is a profound mental health condition resulting not from a single event, but from prolonged, repeated harm, neglect, or betrayal. When trauma happens during critical developmental periods, it rewires the nervous system, affecting emotional regulation, self-concept, and relationships. Learn how C-PTSD differs from standard PTSD, how it impacts the "window of tolerance," and the specific, evidence-based therapies that make healing and recovery possible.
High-functioning anxiety describes a pattern where worry and self-doubt drive achievement and productivity. Outwardly, people appear organized and dependable, yet inside they may feel restless, tense, or fearful of falling behind. This article explains the signs, costs, and long-term impact of high-functioning anxiety, and offers practical steps for preventing burnout.
Intrusive thoughts can be confusing and distressing, especially when they seem to come out of nowhere. This piece offers a compassionate look at why trying to control your thoughts often backfires, and what actually helps instead. Grounded in evidence-based therapy and clinical experience, it invites a shift away from fear and toward self-trust.
In times of uncertainty and global unrest, anxiety is a natural response. While you cannot control everything happening in the world, you can take steps to manage anxiety and care for yourself. Focus on what is within your reach, set boundaries with news and social media, and allow yourself to rest when needed. Small actions, meaningful connections, and simple mind–body practices can help you find stability. Remember, you do not have to carry everything alone; caring for yourself allows you to keep showing up for what matters most.
Compassion is often misunderstood as softness or passive acceptance. True compassion—with integrity—requires clarity, honesty, and accountability. It means holding space for both care and truth, refusing to shame or collude, and believing in each person’s capacity for growth. This approach does not avoid discomfort or difficult realities. Instead, it balances empathy with honest reflection, helping us hold ourselves and others to a higher standard without cruelty. Practicing compassion with integrity transforms both how we relate to others and how we treat ourselves, anchoring us in respect, self-honesty, and the real work of change.
Many people believe it’s too late to make a change, whether that means starting over in a career, finding love, or pursuing a new goal. Fear convinces us that we don’t have enough time, but the truth is that growth is possible at any stage of life. Real change happens not because fear disappears, but because we decide to move forward despite it. If you’re feeling stuck, remember: it’s not too late. Fear is part of the process, but it doesn’t have to be the thing that holds you back.
Therapy is a profoundly human process that asks us to hold space for people with values and beliefs different from our own. True connection can emerge even when those differences feel stark. Building that connection means seeing beyond opinions, asking honest questions, and focusing on the whole person. When discomfort arises, it can become a tool for reflection and growth—for both therapist and client. At the same time, honoring our own boundaries is essential. Leading with humanity requires both openness and self-awareness, ensuring that respect and curiosity remain at the heart of the therapeutic relationship.
Many people move through life believing their thoughts are simply facts about themselves or the world. In reality, thoughts are not objective truth—they are interpretations shaped by emotion, memory, and habit. Learning to observe your thoughts, rather than becoming fused with them, is a transformative step toward mental clarity. Mindfulness helps us recognize that while the experience of having a thought is real, the content of that thought is not always true. Shifting your relationship with your thoughts allows you to respond more effectively to life’s challenges, rather than being controlled by them.